Should we step back or LET IT GO????

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Should we step back or LET IT GO????
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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 4:53pm
Hello,

My b/f & I have been seeing each other for about 1yr and everything has been good up until recently, we both have some trust issues and I admit I have more than he does b/c I came out of a bad relationship. In the beginning of our relationship he called me about 4 times a day if not more now he only calls once if that, also we don't spend as much time together as we use to, and if we see each other we never go out anymore. I have expressed my discomfort with the situation and we always seem to get into an argument. There is alot of other suspicious behavior patterns that I have noticed but I don't want to make this too long. Recently, he told me he was going to be going one place and I found out that he was actually somewhere else. When I confronted him about this he told me that he was tired of being accused of being unfaithful and he really loved me and wanted to be with me, but he thinks we need to take a step back and re- analyze what we want becuz I can't seem the trust him and He know what he wants but I don't know what I want. I told him that maybe we should end it all together,and he says he does not want to end it all together but maybe we jumped in too quickly and I need to re-consider what I want.He told me to think about what I want and let him know, well I have not answered his phone calls b/c I really don't know what to do, I don't want to lose him, neither do I want to be hurt again. But I'm really hurting b/c I don't know if it will hurt more to stay in or to let it go all together?? Can anyone offer in advice or suggestions???

Thanks,

tulipj xxxxx

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 5:26pm
What are some of the other suspicious behaviors? Sometimes when a bf/gf is hiding things, he'll try to turn it around and say he's tired of your jealousy, or suspicions, or accusations, etc. Can you elaborate?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 5:38pm
Let it go...you now know he's a liar, and that he is more than willing to manipulate you (the "let's back up" thing). Is that the type of man you want to be with?

Sheri

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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 5:38pm
Hi,

Thanks for responding,

first as I mentioned he used to call me several times a day now he only calls once at night and it is normally when he is about to go to sleep so we really don't get a chance to talk long, sometimes I feel like it is just a token call or something. Secondly, I went by his house one night and his car was there and another car and I knocked an he did not answer and when I asked him about it he said he was not there he was out with his friends. I honestly don't believe that story, it just his whole pattern changed we used to go out everyweekend, it been months since we went out and also we used to spend all weekend together now we only spend maybe one day together if any!!!