Should you give him a 2nd chance?
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Should you give him a 2nd chance?
| Tue, 02-10-2004 - 12:27pm |
Imagine that you and your boyfriend have been dating for two years. He talks to you about everything and anything. He tells you that he loves you everyday at any given moment. On top of that he introduce you to his family and all his friends. He even gets your name tattooed on his neck. His bestfriend for several years tells you that she believes that he really loves you. You two don't live very close, he doesn't have a way to communicate with you on a daily bases but he trys to call as much as he can despite the circumstances. Okay, now, after all that you find out he cheated on you not once but twice, with two different females, both of them claim to be pregnant by him. You confront the first female who told you everything, she claims that she doesn't have any feelings for him and she wants nothing to do with him, but after you leave later on you find out she tried to get him to take her back (he didn't). The other girl says she doesn't want him but as soon as she finds out that you decided to break it off she jumps at the chance to get with him again. 1st question: do you believe the two girls? 2nd question: Do you try to continue your relationship with him?
Regardless he still calls you, tells you how much he loves you, and how much he wants you back (he claims to be willing to do anything to prove his love for you). You don't take him back but you are willing to give hi another chance. 3rd: Do you give him another chance? (Despite what he did you still love him). 4th: How do you learn to trust him again?
Regardless he still calls you, tells you how much he loves you, and how much he wants you back (he claims to be willing to do anything to prove his love for you). You don't take him back but you are willing to give hi another chance. 3rd: Do you give him another chance? (Despite what he did you still love him). 4th: How do you learn to trust him again?

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When you find a GOOD man who is mature and has integrity and self-worth, you will not even find yourself in this type of situation b/c he'd never allow himself to be put in this situation. The women could be lying but they haven't just come out of the blue to persecute him (and you). In other words, it is very unlikely he is just an innocent victim. He's playing SOME part in the situation. As I said, a mature man who's worth his salt would not be there. What type of circle of people are you in anyway? I suggest "movin' on up" and rising to a level above all this crap. Just a thought.
Its obvious that I didn't come here trying to as you said: "hoping someone on this anonymous message board could tell you who was lying and who was telling the truth." I was stating that I don't know who to believe and not to. I came here to find someone who could give me ADVICE on what to do and get other peoples opinion. Even if I was to move on from this and find another man who is mature and has integrity and self-worth (which you don't even know whether or not he holds any of those qualities) that doesn't ensure that something like this won't happen again. So thanks for the advice(I think).
Actually, I think the point many of us are trying to make is that yes it will.
James
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