sibling disagreement ...

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Registered: 12-29-2007
sibling disagreement ...
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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 2:21pm
A night was held with friends and family dancing and drinking ... and afterwards I was having a discussion with my sister (whom I am close to but, we have had a few awkward moments where I feel she leashes out at me occasionally) and she mentioned that she was not going to ask me a question but, rather have my brother-in-law ask on New Year's Eve and then she decided to ask anyway.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 5:25pm
She sounds a little unstable. That's not the sort of question that should elicit a defensive response... My guess is that she herself is "they" and she didn't want to admit it.
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Registered: 12-11-2006
Sun, 12-30-2007 - 12:49pm

There is no way that we can tell from your post whether your reaction was defensive. You could have rolled your eyes and spoken loudly and gone off on her or you could have gently said 'Why should I go out with him?' in an inquisitive and interested way.


Regardless, is your sister often dramatic or take your choices personally?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-30-2007 - 5:40pm

No, you were not being defensive. You have every right to know who they are are and why they think the two of you might be suited for one another. Beyond that, your sister has no right to get upset about your personal choices. It's none of her business ultimately whether or not you are single. Basically, she probably just wanted to help you find someone to be with. Her intentions were most likely very good. However, it could also be that she is controlling and wants you to do things her way, and if you don't gets upset.


Don't let her reaction bother you. She means well, and so do you. If you want to go out with him, give it a try, if you do not, don't feel any pressure.


All good wishes,