Signs of cheating

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Signs of cheating
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Fri, 03-19-2004 - 8:13am
I have a feeling that my boyfriend has been cheating on me. He swears that he would never do that but I still have this feeling in my gut. Plus last night I looked in my bedside drawer and now some of my sexual lotions are missing. They were there I know about a month ago if that long ago. We got into a big fight about it and he swears up and down that he has no clue where they are. Not many people come in my house and I seriously doubt I misplaced them. I have told him so many times if he did cheat on me if he would just admit it we could work things out but I refuse to stay with someone who will live a lie. Should I believe that he does not know where these items are or should I just give him the boot?
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 8:16am
Here is your last message:

About 3 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. I was really hurt over it and we were arguing heavily on the phone about it. Well he got fed up and told me he cheated on me with a coworker of mine. Right after that he told me he was just saying it so I would hate him becuase he didn't want me to cry over him. He was also using drugs here and there. Now he is clean and we haven't had any problems whatsoever but the thought of him cheating on me is still in the back of my mind. I want to beleive that he just told me that to hurt me but a part of me thinks he did cheat. He swears he would never do that to me and the girl he supposedly cheated with laughed it off becuase she can't stand him. She has heard about how he treated me in the past and didn't like him from the begining. I just don't know what to believe. They both say they didn't do anything and I want to believe him but I am just so confused. What should I do? I want to be able to trust him and work things out, we've been together for 4 years and I don't want to throw it away for something I beleive happened when it didn't but also don't want to waste any more years if it did.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 3:19pm
Romantic Deception: The Six Signs He's Lying, Sally Caldwell Ph.D.

When Your Lover is a Liar, Susan Forward


Good luck to you on your decision.


Carrie

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Registered: 04-05-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 6:28pm
Just because your lotions are gone doesn't mean he's cheating. I'd be willing to bet that he's using them to masturbate.