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| Sun, 11-04-2007 - 10:28pm |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. We're still blissfully in love and are best friends like any other. We're very open, opinionated, and easy going with just about anything.
In the beginning of our relationship, just as any other, we could talk forever on the phone, which is understandable because you're in that "getting to know each other stage" and it's lusting puppy love for the most part. Of course as the relationship grows, a much stronger and deeper connection develops which is wonderful. But now unless we're discussing a dispute over the phone there's nothing really but static air between us and silence even on instant messenger;however, when we're physically together we'll talk like there's no tomorrow sometimes about anything whether it be good or bad.
I've asked a couple of my close friends if that's happened to them, cause this isn't the first time I've been here before, they both gave me different answers but it's unfortunate because both of their relationships in my opinion are terrible for the most part so I'm lost in their responses anyway, but is this typical?
I guess what I'm trying to ask is if it's a bad thing for two people that are happily together to not really have anything to talk about on the phone or IM?
As mentioned, when we're physically together everything just comes and follows naturally but there's just absolutely no conversation going on otherwise. Is that bad?

Welcome to the board dbc806,
Are you expecting to have long conversations by phone and IM all the time?
Welcome to the board dbc806,
I agree with Carrie. If you get along well in person and the relationship is progressing then way you want, than don't worry about it.
Usually when I call my husband on the phone I just ask him what if he is doing (if he is working on a rental house) and when he will be home.
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Maybe you two just aren't phone people, now that the dust has settled somewhat ;) Me and my friend/dating partner/ SO or whatever you want to call him, don't really have a whole lot to say on the phone if we're seeing each other regularly. I mean, life has to happen in there somewhere, you know? In person, you can't shut the two of us up, and we're pretty oblivious to whomever's around us. We've gone out to dinner at times and never actually order anything because we were so caught up in conversation, but there have been other times when we'd just hang out together quietly. If he's been on the road for a while, or I have, then when we talk it's longer, but that's partly because we haven't seen each other in person and because a few days have gone by. In between he'll send me a picture message of something, or I'll email him an article, but no actual conversation for a couple of days and that's fine because with those little things, it seems we're on each other's minds somewhat.
So, it's probably not something I'd worry about. Now, if you didn't have anything to talk about at any time, then that might be something to think about, but there are couples out there for whom even that isn't anything to worry about. It takes all kinds, find the groove that you and he can move to together.
Good luck,
As long as the two of you are happy, talking, flowing and feel good when you're together, it's fine. When you see each other the feeling spark.
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