Simple question...yeah right
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Simple question...yeah right
| Tue, 10-16-2007 - 12:01pm |
A bit of background before simple question
I've been married for 14 yrs. one child
| Tue, 10-16-2007 - 12:01pm |
A bit of background before simple question
I've been married for 14 yrs. one child
I think you're doing a little too much catering to him for him to want to go back to the way things were. This tactic of getting him his favorite cake clearly isn't working.
A month is WAY too long for him to be holding you hostage emotionally like this. Stop playing his game, you have nothing to apologize for. Tell him, "I am unhappy with where we stand right now and I won't tolerate it unless things start to change." You may not want to hear it but I think your methods of communication are just not working with him, and you should get to a marriage counselor if you are both REALLY willing to save your marriage.
By sleeping on the couch this long he continues to assert dominance over you. He KNOWS that you want him to come back to bed with him, but he doesn't because he ENJOYS punishing you and having you cater to him to try to win him back.
lol, my mistake... My advice still stands, I think that by allowing him to continue on this way on his terms, and allowing her needs to go unfulfilled, is unnecessarily catering to him
All cake is good cake though you have to admit
Welcome to the board divinegal,
For your relationship to work, he will have to be willing to meet you half way. At this point, in my personal opinion, there is no point in bringing up the birthday party because while you are upset about it, he can't change it and it's not the real issue.