slowing down w/out hurting him..
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slowing down w/out hurting him..
| Tue, 07-06-2004 - 5:21pm |
I have been praying for a guy like the one I am currently seeing and now that I have him I am a little scared..We have been dating for about 2 months and have done alot of fun things together, we enjoy being together, get along great w/ each others friends and family and he is more open than any guy I think I've ever dated. Usually I am wondering where I stand with a guy, how he feels, what he wants. But this guy is so different. We know several of the same peole and everyone has told me what a sweet and great guy he is. It takes me a while to gain trust in people and I guess I'm scared that he is too good to be true. He is not perfect by any means,but he alot of great qualities. I know that I can talk to him about anything, but he seems to be a pretty sensitive guy and I don't want him to take me wanting to slow down just a little bit to mean that I don't want to date him anymore, because I do!..I look forward to seeing him everyday, but I know that he is a little ahead of me in how he is feeling. I like him alot and the more I get to know him the more I like him. In past relationships I have been the one to give and give and never get anything back. With him ,he is always wanting to do little things for me. I feel like he is just as giving as I am and that it is not one sided. How can I slow down w/out hurting him? I don't want to break up or date anybody else and I know that is what he will think

Maybe he's just a "giver" because he gets off on being a giver, a provider, a savior, a security blanket..in which case, never fall out of "need" or else he'll fall out of love.
Erin
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Have you told him this? You have to talk to the guy you are dating especially if you want things to work out. If you really like him then communicate. Tell him what you told us.
Communication will lessen your anxiety.
C
and if you don't keep up... you'll hear about it.
and giving is just a way to make them feel good, not you.
giving can be manipulation...