Smothered - please help!
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Smothered - please help!
| Thu, 07-15-2004 - 11:34am |
So I'm in a relationship with a wonderful guy (we'll call him Henry). We've been seeing each other for about 3 months now. He's sensitive, kind, caring, generous, loving, compassionate, funny, witty...all that and more. And I care about him very much. So how come, all of a sudden, do I feel like the walls are closing in on me? I feel like he follows me around like a puppy - I can't wait to go home sometimes, just so I can be by myself! It's awful. I've never been a person who needs a lot of personal time and space...until last fall. I ended a relationship and after that, I discovered the importance and value of "me-time" and developed a heightened sense of self. I'm finally at a place in my life where I'm comfortable in my own skin, and I really enjoy my own company! Henry and I were very hot and heavy for like the first 2 months. Then I guess I had a relationship "freak-out" and am scrambling to recreate that balance that I'd honed for myself, between me-time, family-time, friend-time, work-time and Henry-time. We've discussed this, but I'm still feeling smothered - things that he does and says irritate me, where there's no call for irritation. I don't know what to do. Can this relationship be saved? Should I just start spending more time at home and with my family? How does a couple bounce back from this situation? I know it's very common, but I've never experienced it before so I'm a bit lost! Can anyone help???
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| Thu, 07-15-2004 - 11:43am |
I kind of feel that way too sometimes, but I have been w/ my BF for much longer, about a year and a half. My best suggestion for you, especially since you two haven't been together that long so it isn't all that serious yet, is to take some time off. Explain your problem to him, and tell him that you need a couple of weeks or a month to figure things out. That way, hopefully you will know for sure if you want a relationship or not. If he is constantly around, you'll never have time to focus on what you want, b/c you'll constantly be focusing on him. Good luck!
