snooped around and now i am confused

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Registered: 10-01-2003
snooped around and now i am confused
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Wed, 09-08-2004 - 8:33am
hello everyone i will make this short as i can me and my fiancee have been together for four and ahalf years been engaged two of those years well about the end of august i went into his email account and found two emails from a friend that he went to highschool with the email that the girl sent him was honestly harmless but on his end he was curious if she was seeing someone he did not mention me or our daughter in the email but the girl does know about us well i went on to go ahead and tell him the truth that i did check his email account and of course he was mad also he states that he did not reponsed to that email because of the fact that we do not have a computer or does he have one at work and also at the time the email was sent i can say that he was at home at the time the email states that it was sent also he just bought a new house i live there as well with our daughter but i am not on the loan because of some credit issues but he asks when i am going to marry him but i am just so confused right now i love this man he is my soul mate but we really never say i love you please help me
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2003
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 3:20pm
any advise can really help thanks
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2003
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 3:37pm
Your post is rather confusing, frankly. I'm not sure what to advise you on...you check his account and he got mad. That's about all I could make of it. The rest is too muddled. Maybe repost, break it down in paragrphs by problem and use punctuation, and then maybe you'll get more responses.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 4:50pm
I think I read your post on another board. You're not getting much advice for a couple of reasons. One, you don't use punctuation. Try placing periods at the end of each sentence and repost your dilemma. It's almost impossible to understand what you're saying without them. Two, you aren't making sense about the e-mail. If there is no computer, how did you check his e-mail? Other posters have asked you this question, but you have never answered it. So once again, where and how did you see the e-mail?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 6:01pm
Your post is very difficult to understand as the others have also stated. I'm trying to figure out the facts here. So far it looks like:

- You are the only person with regular access to a computer, probably at your work.

- You live with your fiance and do not have a computer at home.

- He does not have access to a computer at his place of work.

- He states that he was at home at the time the email was sent.

Are these true and accurate facts? If yes, then there are a few possibilities:

- He had a friend respond to the email.

- The timing is off and he was at a friend's house or at an internet cafe and responded to the email.

- Maybe you sent the email to create drama.

Regardless of how the emails were sent & received the content does seem to be innocent. He asked a fairly normal everyday question that could be asked to any friend.

So what's the real deal and issue here? If you can be straight with us, then we can be straight with you.