So confused

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-04-2011
So confused
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 6:29pm

Ok so for the past few years i've always been in relationships. I'm 22 years old and 6 months ago cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years to be with a guy I have fancied for the past 6 years.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2006
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 6:34pm

That sucks. I think he's being pretty clear here though.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 11:35pm

Angel, you're asking if there's any hope for a relationship with someone who doesn't want

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 11:45pm

Oh, my!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 5:28pm

Unfortunately you've convinced yourself that since you are in love with him, you must be with him.

Life doesn't work that way. You don't get to have someone just because you have strong feelings for them. The right relationship is more likely to happen when you've actually put time and effort into improving and understanding yourself, rather than expecting a relationship to save you. You fell in love with this guy's first impression, now you are seeing that he's not as great as you WANT to believe.

It is sad but until you are willing to walk away from both of these men, and actually be single, you will not be able to be happy.