so confused

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Registered: 05-21-2004
so confused
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 12:46pm
Ok ive been with my boyfriend for two years now, the problem is that he had an female admirer at work who sent him a valentines card even though he never told me I found it and I wasn’t happy but I still didn’t make an issue since his an attractive guy im always expecting stuff like that however he told me he stopped talking to her etc recently a friend of his kept texting him and I read his texts which where not exactly what I expected they were all hey baby so I asked him he kept lying saying it wasn’t this girl but was his guy mate from work until I waked out on him he admitted it was her and that he didn’t tell me because I didn’t like her and knew I would react like this but didn’t believe him and so left for two weeks last night he gave me her number and said call and ask her she will tell you the truth and so I did only she told me they were a couple for six months and she didn’t have a clue who I was so then I told him and he said she was lying and told me to met him at work and we can talk it out, first I spoke to her as I couldn’t find him and she was still sticking to her story that they were a couples she then went and found him as I could get into the building, he came down and first she goes to him is that your cousin pointing at me and he said no then I said to him who am I and he goes to I know you and that’s it and I was so shocked he made me feel so small then she got angry and walked off and I jus left because I didn’t know what to say. He later called me and told me to meet him and I didn’t want to so he came to my flat where I spoke to him he told me he was joking around and didn’t realise I would react like that and he said before he could finish she walked away but I don’t know what to think or believe I made him call her of my phone and speak to her and tell her the truth only she answered the phone and said she didn’t want to speak to either one of us I don’t know what to make of the situation all I know is that his still trying to contact me and explain but im really confused please help.

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Registered: 05-22-2004
In reply to: i_sallysam
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 7:44pm
Im not getting what it is that you arent getting....What truth is it you are expecting to hear? Do you think anything OTHER than the fact that he cheats?

Lilypie Baby Days<

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Registered: 05-21-2004
In reply to: i_sallysam
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 6:24am
why did he give me her number to call?

why did he do that to me when he promied he wudnt?

why beg me to cum back

i hoenstly just want him to admit who i was in front of her cos i knwo i deserved better then that

why did she walk away wen he said it?
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Registered: 05-22-2004
In reply to: i_sallysam
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 7:02am
why did he give me her number to call? Because its what a cheater will do sometimes. I had a man do the same thing. The plan is that the woman might tell you the truth but then later he can convince you that the "other woman" is a total whack job.

why did he do that to me when he promied he wudnt? Well he has shown a propensity for lying. If you said "Please promise you will never cheat on me" do you think he would respond with "Actually, the chances are good that I will be unfaithful".???

why beg me to cum back -Cheaters dont like losing at their own game. He has a pretty strong idea that you will be with him still.

hoenstly just want him to admit who i was in front of her cos i knwo i deserved better then that -Do you REALLY need your closure and self respect to come from these people? Who cares if he fesses up about you...do you really care? These people should be NOTHING to you.


why did she walk away wen he said it?-Maybe she was in shock, maybe she was angry, maybe...we could go on all day like this. Same answer as above: Who cares? You cant be successful in life surrounded by people who live their lives like this. Get rid of them...they sound very well suited to one another.


Lilypie Baby Days<

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Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: i_sallysam
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 11:43am
It sounds like you know what you want to do at the risk of ignoring what everyone here is telling you so go ahead and confront him, but don't be surprised when you don't feel any better afterward. You probably won't really believe what he says and won't trust his actions anyway.

And you shouldn't.

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