So confused-Need Insight

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Registered: 01-20-2008
So confused-Need Insight
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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 1:40pm
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 2:57pm

Of course my now you have every right to expect that you would be monogomous. He is the one who wanted to come back, but you must have certain standards for the relationship and let him know. Otherwise, nothing will change. Before he really comes back, you need to know what exactly he has on his mind. The time is now. Sit down with him, and without being critical or demanding, find out what he wants. Let him know that you are not interested in being in the relationship unless it is monogomous. Beyond that, sit down and decide what you want from a relationship. What kind of progress do you wish? Do you want to get married? If you just drift along you will be wasting your time. Become very clear about what you want and need, and then you'll see if he is the one to fulfill those desires - if he wants the same thing. Unless two people are on the same page, and have the same desires and needs in a relationship, no matter how you feel about him, it's not suitable.


So, sit down and talk it over. If he is vague, plays games, isn't able to be pinned down, then realize that he is not ready to be the person you really need.


Best wishes,