So confused....help!
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So confused....help!
| Wed, 09-24-2008 - 9:36pm |
So I've been dating this guy for about 5 months, he pursued me like crazy for almost 1 1/2 years...we work together...we started dating, and things have been going very well. So I bring up the "talk" and now things are distant. He told me about two weeks ago that he loved me and yet still doesn't want to commit. His friends say I need to date other guys to make him realize. I really really like him a lot and I'm just so confused as to how it got to this point....I'm not ready to date anyone else, he and I have so much in common and get along really well....what do i do?

Welcome to the board stardazzle2008,
I have the same question - commit to what?
Is he seeing other women? Or is he with you exclusively? If he is in an exclusive relationship with you, I would say he has "committed" to you in keeping with your definition of the word. People of my generation equate the word committment with marriage. Today people say they are not "single" when they have a boyfriend/girlfriend. To me, you are single until you are married.
If this guy has pursued you for a long time, and everything has been going really well in the few months that you have been seeing each other, what do you think happened to start to slowly change things? Does one event come to mind? Perhaps the "talk", as you put it? I wonder what you said to him. His reply "I love you but am not ready to commit" sounds like a man who isn't ready to get married. Did you broach the subject of marriage?