so i'm still upset
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so i'm still upset
| Fri, 08-13-2004 - 5:46pm |
so, he, whom is my fiance, has no idea why i still remain so upset. he tells me i just need to get over it. well you know what? i would get over it if he understood just how much he upsets me and just how many nerves i have left in my body that can be gratted. he is disrespectful but he can turn it around to make it sound as though it is me whom isn't listening or paying attention but i am. i know i am becuse i can't be loosing my mind that quickly can i? i'm only 23 years old and there's no sign of major mental issuse in my family history. why is it he can't see my point? why is it he doesn't understand why i hold onto this grudge towards him in so many things. why does he think i should just be the same as him and forget about it an hour later as he does? i am so lost and i am so blank. i have no idea what to do next or even how to go about doing anything!

And you've gotten with him and stayed with him whil ehe pursues his priorities and goals, by his values and standards...and it just "hurts" you all the time on every level.
he's saying - chill out, get laid back, get like me. The way I am is the right way to be, you're wrong.
You're sayinig - get uptight, get anal - get like me. The way Ia m is the right way to be, you're worng.
The thing is each individual's perception of life, self and situations is thier reality - nobodys' "reality" is quite the same - even in the same situation.
You two have no fundamental elements in common...You're always hurt because you're being ignored, dismissed, unincluded, or spurned, and he's frustrated that you're not more attentive, appreciative, and affectionate.
Break up - you can't fix fundamental differences. Becuase here's a reality check...nothing he ever does in the future - is going to erase what he's done in the past.
Erin
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