So lost and Not sure what to do??? help!
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So lost and Not sure what to do??? help!
| Fri, 08-06-2004 - 12:57pm |
Hi everyone,
Not sure where to start here, But let me give you a brief rundown and see how this goes.
I am a married mom of 15 years! Stayed at home with kids and now getting back to work.
I found out my H was having an affair on April 26th, of this year, My dear D-Day.
IT has been going on for about 1 1/2 years. Well since then , I have been heart broken. The reason he stated for cheating on me was just so simple of him saying i never listened to him. I really am a great wife and mother, During a stressful time of taking care of his grandmom of 5 years in our home. I had so much love for my husband. As I am underlining had!
I have lost a lot of love for him, So hurt and angry. I am trying to love him the way I have before, It is so hard. So I decided to get a job, Full time working overnights. So this brings a few things , I am attracted to someone at work. And Not sure how he feels, and Also have being surrounded by quite a few men, I am finding this so hard. I am questioning my love for my husband?? What I want in life? This is so confusing, It has been a long time since i have thought of anything and the last thing even cheating on my H. Part of me wants to save my marriage, but part of me just wants to cheat and hurt him so bad, like he hurt me. I dont know how to feel, What to do? I am looking for all advice I can get? Should I save my marriage?
If any of you have any advice please give it,
Thanks so much,
yme
Not sure where to start here, But let me give you a brief rundown and see how this goes.
I am a married mom of 15 years! Stayed at home with kids and now getting back to work.
I found out my H was having an affair on April 26th, of this year, My dear D-Day.
IT has been going on for about 1 1/2 years. Well since then , I have been heart broken. The reason he stated for cheating on me was just so simple of him saying i never listened to him. I really am a great wife and mother, During a stressful time of taking care of his grandmom of 5 years in our home. I had so much love for my husband. As I am underlining had!
I have lost a lot of love for him, So hurt and angry. I am trying to love him the way I have before, It is so hard. So I decided to get a job, Full time working overnights. So this brings a few things , I am attracted to someone at work. And Not sure how he feels, and Also have being surrounded by quite a few men, I am finding this so hard. I am questioning my love for my husband?? What I want in life? This is so confusing, It has been a long time since i have thought of anything and the last thing even cheating on my H. Part of me wants to save my marriage, but part of me just wants to cheat and hurt him so bad, like he hurt me. I dont know how to feel, What to do? I am looking for all advice I can get? Should I save my marriage?
If any of you have any advice please give it,
Thanks so much,
yme

As muxh as you want to hust him and make him suffer as much as he has made you, you cant. It wasnt right him doing it t you, and its not right for you to turn around and do it to him.
Is he still having the affair?
My advice is that if you want and plan on saving this marriage, to get into marriage counseling. Your husband has only himself to blame for his infedilties, blaming you only eliviates some of the guilt from himself. If you are not able to completley overcome this and live with him wothout constantley accusing, wondering, distrusting, then you shoudl move on with your life. A year and a half is nt a mistake, something that "just happens".
Best wishes to you,
Carrie