You don't need to bring up counseling again. You already have, and in his own way, he's refused.
I think it's safe to say that this relationship needs to end because it's not going to change. You are right, apologies do not change anything. If he were committed to being a better person for you, then he would already be in counseling. It's time for you to cut your losses and go.
Holy moley, this guy sounds like my ex-boyfriend. The first responder was right. Your boyfriend is verbally abusive. You need to get away from him. I still have scars from the wasted year I spent with the guy I was seeing. He used to say the same disrespectful stuff to me that your guy is saying to you--putting you down, denigrating your opinion, blowing up at you with very little provocation.
How about telling him that if he wants to save the relationship he needs to find a way to control his anger and he needs to be proactive about it. If he isn't willing to go to therapy then what does that say about him?
Welcome to the board cali_girl_79,
So from what I read, I got:
You don't need to bring up counseling again. You already have, and in his own way, he's refused.
I think it's safe to say that this relationship needs to end because it's not going to change. You are right, apologies do not change anything. If he were committed to being a better person for you, then he would already be in counseling. It's time for you to cut your losses and go.
How about telling him that if he wants to save the relationship he needs to find a way to control his anger and he needs to be proactive about it. If he isn't willing to go to therapy then what does that say about him?