So tired of it!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2007
So tired of it!
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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 1:08am
Lately, I've been feeling like I don't really care to be with my live-in boyfriend anymore.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 1:20am

Welcome to the board cali_girl_79,


So from what I read, I got:

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 11:09am
If you love each other you can try to work this out in counseling but he has to recognize that he has a problem.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 2:44pm
I think both of you are right.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 8:20pm
Any advice?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 8:46pm

You don't need to bring up counseling again. You already have, and in his own way, he's refused.

I think it's safe to say that this relationship needs to end because it's not going to change. You are right, apologies do not change anything. If he were committed to being a better person for you, then he would already be in counseling. It's time for you to cut your losses and go.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 9:47pm
Holy moley, this guy sounds like my ex-boyfriend. The first responder was right. Your boyfriend is verbally abusive. You need to get away from him. I still have scars from the wasted year I spent with the guy I was seeing. He used to say the same disrespectful stuff to me that your guy is saying to you--putting you down, denigrating your opinion, blowing up at you with very little provocation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 9:48pm

How about telling him that if he wants to save the relationship he needs to find a way to control his anger and he needs to be proactive about it. If he isn't willing to go to therapy then what does that say about him?