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So very confused???
| Fri, 04-23-2004 - 9:01pm |
Well I'm not sure that this really belongs here but here goes. I'm 2 months pregnant with my boyfriends child and we have a major decision to make. I told him that if we were not at least engaged by the time I was 7months then we would need to put the baby up for adoption. It tears me apart and I really don't want to put the pressure on but I hate not having a clue as to what my future holds. I can not afford to raise the baby alone plus I want my child to have a mom and dad which is why I need some kind of commitment from him. His family is pressuring him to keep the baby but I need some assurance. I'm afraid of becoming too pushy or needy to him. I am ready to be married and be a mom but I don't know that he is. How can I help him and help myself?

Why do you feel that getting engaged by a certain date will make things better?Do you feel that by giving him this ultimatum, you will get the ring, the baby, the perfect life?
I know people that come from broken homes and have matured into great citizens and even better freinds. They go ont o become doctors or lawyers, teachers and police officers. I also have seen people come out of what are labled " normal " homes, and become criminals.
These days, marriage doesnt fix anything, your happiness is determined by you...If you feel that setting a time limit on your relationship and getting a ring is going to make things better somehow, then go for it, I dont thin kanyone will be able to tell you any different. I hope before you go with this ultimatum, you give things a little more thought.
Best of luck to you and your baby,