The Sociopath Next Door

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Registered: 09-16-2002
The Sociopath Next Door
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Mon, 03-17-2014 - 11:14am

I highly recommend women read this book, especially those who are or who continue to get into relationships with men who are manipulative, cheaters, etc.  One of the first things that struck me in this book was the statement "1 in 25 people are sociopaths"  And from the postings I've read on this and other relationship boards, I can see how true that statement is.  Additionally, more men than women have sociopathic tendencies.  Sociopaths have a knack for making others feel sorry for them, and for making others think they are the problem in their relationship, in reality sociopaths have no conscience and will do what they want, when they want, without any thought for their partner. This is so true for the men who come and go from a relationship, they come back just to see how much more they can take (whether it be material things or self esteem) because it's all a game to them.  What women need to understand is that they have no control over a person who is a sociopath, so the sooner you can get them out of your life, the better.

This is an interesting link from the Huffington Post about Signs that you may be dating a Sociopath:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/23/11-signs-dating-a-sociopath_n_3780417.html

If you have come across or currently dating someone who might be a sociopath know that you cannot change them, sociopaths never seek out counseling because they don't think anything is wrong with them.

 

 

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

.  -Albert Einstein

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Registered: 08-26-2004
Mon, 03-17-2014 - 12:35pm
Wow! You were so right! Goodness, he has a lot of these traits.
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Registered: 08-26-2004
Mon, 03-17-2014 - 12:36pm
Wow! You were so right! Goodness, he has a lot of these traits.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 03-17-2014 - 8:18pm

Bottom line is this guy like to cheat cause he feels entitled to do whatever he wants as long as it pleases him. And then he tries to turn his cheating around on YOU by telling you you're not sexually adventurous enough. That is total BS. This is the type of guy that cannot be monogomous even if you tried to fullfill all his needs. He is a sociopath and you should dump this loser before he hurts you again. And who knows if he's always using condoms during all his conquests and what he could pass on to you from one of these women. You deserve so much better than this. Good Luck.

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Registered: 08-26-2004
Mon, 03-17-2014 - 11:27pm

I'm realizing that now; it just bothers me that it took me so long to open my eyes! I know too much to have acted so stupid.  I know that as time passes my confidence will be restored.

He wasn't using condoms, I saw the videos that he made and that was what made me not want to see him again even though he insisted I was not sexually challenging him. I was tested today and have been lately just for peace of mind.

Thank you for the well wishes. I certainly know the warning signs now and need a nice guy, not a manipulative and cheating jerk.