Somebody please! Help! I'm Lost!

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Registered: 08-25-2004
Somebody please! Help! I'm Lost!
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Sat, 10-16-2004 - 7:57pm
I'm in love with someone. We are both in college and our early 20's, and i met him about 6 or 7 months ago at work. We clicked intstantly, and even though our job doesnt really bring us together often, we choose to see eachother regularly, almost daily, either at work or outside of work. In the beginning, I fought my feelings for him but now, as we get closer, I can't fight it anymore. I'm crazy about him. I have no idea how he feels about me, and I do my best not to let him see how much I care. My wishful thinking tells me he feels the same way, and he has told me before, on many occasions that he has trouble making the first move on a girl. Is that a hint? Does he want me to make a move? All i ever do (stupidly) is tell him that he needs to be more brave and call girls that he's interested in. He has, with my encouragement, a couple times, but he usually ends up ending it with that phonecall saying "she was a mumbler on the phone," I dont know what to think! Help me please! I'm falling for him more and more every day, and I'm worried that I'll lose my chance. How can i tell if he feels the same! What should I do!

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Registered: 09-26-2004
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 1:22am
Girls are always the one to over think everything. We spend months grinding out our insides wondering and analizing everything. Guys are more basic. If they are interested they persue us. If they want to know how we feel about them they'll say "how do you feel about me?" We look for clues and read the horoscope for answers. Nothing scares guys off more then the thought that what they say will make a girl cry. They will lie to prevent it. Just go up to him with a smile and say "just curious; are you really falling for me or not? I won't be upset if the answer is no." ( Don't forget to smile or he'll panic and say what ever he thinks you want to hear. If he believes it will be o.k. to be honest he will be. Remember, if the answer is no you have to be cool and let it go. At least you'll know the answer and you can stay friends and start looking for another man. It's the easiest way.