Someone PLEASE give me advice!
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Someone PLEASE give me advice!
| Wed, 08-25-2004 - 8:43pm |
I have really gotten myself into a mess!! First, I am dating, and have fallen in love with a man who is married but is separated from his wife. They have yet to start the divorce process. We have been together for 6 months (5 of which we have been living together). I'm 20 and hes 34. He has two kids (his son is 3 and his daughter is 10, both are incredably wonderful). We live about a hour away and seeing his kids doesnt happen on a regular basis. Second, he moved in with me which would not be a problem if I didnt live with my father and two siblings. I had to move back in after fleeing from a very abusive relationship about a year and a half ago (my ex was bi polar not on medication& refused to see a therapist, and stopped working the last 8 months I was with him). He doenst want to bring the kids up here for fear of adding to the chaos. He is also really depressed without his kids (but has only let it show a couple of times). This puts a definate strain on things.
So about a month ago his brother called from Oregon saying the company he works for has tons of job openings, and the opportunity to make more money. We live in Hawaii, so that would be quite a move. His wife is thinking about moving to California next summer, which would make it easier to see the kids. I was thrilled to hear that, and have been thinking of moving over there for a few years now.
THIRD, over the past couple of months his work load has decreased to pretty much nothing (he worked as a sub doing irrigation, which he hates). His last actual paycheck was a couple of weeks ago. So I am basically supporting both of us for now. He has a 2002 truck that he is paying for, which I paid one months loan on already($455.00!!). Plus have taken care of rent the entire time($5oo a month).
He has treated me better then anyone every has. So I keep wanting to believe him when he says "once we move to Oregon I am going to support you completely while you go to school". Wishfull thinking I know.
Oh ya and I was recently diagnosed with chronic depression on top of it all.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE someone give me some advice! I am starting to feel taken advantage of, but really want to make this work.
So about a month ago his brother called from Oregon saying the company he works for has tons of job openings, and the opportunity to make more money. We live in Hawaii, so that would be quite a move. His wife is thinking about moving to California next summer, which would make it easier to see the kids. I was thrilled to hear that, and have been thinking of moving over there for a few years now.
THIRD, over the past couple of months his work load has decreased to pretty much nothing (he worked as a sub doing irrigation, which he hates). His last actual paycheck was a couple of weeks ago. So I am basically supporting both of us for now. He has a 2002 truck that he is paying for, which I paid one months loan on already($455.00!!). Plus have taken care of rent the entire time($5oo a month).
He has treated me better then anyone every has. So I keep wanting to believe him when he says "once we move to Oregon I am going to support you completely while you go to school". Wishfull thinking I know.
Oh ya and I was recently diagnosed with chronic depression on top of it all.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE someone give me some advice! I am starting to feel taken advantage of, but really want to make this work.

-Janelle
p.s. Let me know how things go!
mattysbabylove@yahoo.com
-Janelle