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someone please tell me wht to think here
| Fri, 04-23-2004 - 9:54am |
I am in a long distance relationship with a guy and there have been a few little lies that he has told me that have strained my trust with him but I have worked through it.
a few months ago I came across some pictures of him and another woman and I asked why he was keeping them. He said I don't need them and he threw them away. About a month ago I was looking for a book to read and out falls those pictures. He had taken them out of the garbage and put them in a book. When I ask him about it he says "Gee I don't remember doing that."
Last week I am at his house and he opens an email from this same woman and it says: "are you busy Thursday night or Saturday night? Call me at home or on my cell"
Wow, I think what is up with that. He then gives me three different answers. First he says maybe she wants me to come over and pick up the check for the Daytona Tickets. (I don't understand that one because why should he have to go pick it up?) Then he says she probably wants to go out for a drink. Then he says he doesn't know why she would email that.
We talk about the situation and he seems to be understanding to how I feel about it and he brings up the question. What if she wants to go out to lunch sometime. I tell him that I don;'t want him doing that. I tell him that if she asks him to tell her that we will set something up when I am up in the area and the 3 of us could go to lunch. I also ask him to email her and tell her to just mail the check. I think when you are in a relationship and that person doesn't want you doing something with another women without her there that he should respect that.
Well then today I ask if he ever received her check. He then tells me "oh we had lunch yesterday" Like it is no big deal after everything I just stated above. So I ask him when this came about . He tells me she called him at the office earlier in the week. I had talked to him daily and he never mentioned it!! He says I never asked. That is a lame excuse, I think.
I was upset and hung up. I called him back and then he tells me something different. he tells me she called him at work yesterday not earlier in the week. He says he can;t keep the days straight. I think anyone knows if they set something up yesterday or three days ago. He says he didn't tell me because I didn't ask
Not only did he lie about the day she called, but it seems like he did it behind my back and wasn't going to tell me unless I asked. And on top of that I am going up there next week, he could have told her lets have lunch on Tuesday, it wouldn't have mattered if he got the check yesterday or next week. It seems to me that something is up here. Why couldn't he have lunch with her with me there? He could have waited.
Why would he have to do this to me? We are or I should say I am trying to work on this relationship. I really love him but he doesn't seem to care about me or my feelings. IT is all about him and what he wants. When you are in a relationship you can;t do some of the things that you did when you were single. You need to think about the other person and how he or she will feel about it. That is what people do when they love someone and care about them.
What do you think?

Jennifer
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