Sometimes I hate him
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| Thu, 02-05-2004 - 6:07am |
I have been with this guy for 2 years as of today and some times I can't stand him. I work and he doesn't. If I mention him looking for a job he gets mad and says that I just don't understand how much he has gone through. When we don't have the money for something he sits around and acts all depressed.
Yesterday I had beed up since 8am the day before and then worked all night at the hospital and the run erands. when I got home he wanted to do some other stuff together and when I told him that I needed to get some sleep because I had to work that night he got all mad and started going off about how whet he wants isn't as important as mine. I tried to tell him that since I am the only one working the fact that i need sleep so that I can work is the most important thing and he goes "Here we go again with the job thing"
When I go to the grocery store he is like a 2 year old with the can i get a magazine can I can I can I? and if I say yes he can then its can I get 2 can I? can I? and if I say no we can't afford it he sulks.
What do I do about him the rest of the time I love him.
Heidi

He's with you so that he doesn't have to get a job, pay bills, or be nagged at by his parents. Nobody else would pay his bills while he sits at home watching TV with his hand in his pants.
You "hate" the fact that your life is like this with him - becuase he is like a 2 year old. He expects osmeone else to provide, give, nurture, suckle, protect, and serve him....you're raising a child, the problem is - it's a retarded child that is never going to get past its current "stage of development."
Feelings are not facts. Feelings are a result of situations. You "hate" the fact that you work like a dog and that he is always hounding you to do things with and for him - when you're tired, or overwhelmed (2 year olds do that!). But the feeling of hating him - is a result of you doing that. YOu're doing it to you - it's just you're doing everything "for him" - rather than for yourself.
Erin
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