Sooooo confused

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Registered: 05-03-2007
Sooooo confused
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Sat, 07-26-2008 - 12:21pm

To get the full effect of this situation I have to go back to my freshman year of high school we first met.

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Sat, 07-26-2008 - 2:07pm

If he isnt ready to date you then he really shouldnt be in contact with you because it is not fair - I know exactly how you feel.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 07-26-2008 - 2:20pm

Welcome to the board marie022084,


All this is just

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Sat, 07-26-2008 - 4:12pm
I like Carries advice. This man has told you that he isn't ready to date yet you ask if you should wait and you wonder why he avoids you. He probably regrets introducing a woman to his son. He should. His son should be his number one priority and you shouldn't get involved with someone who doesn't know how to get his prioritities straight. He also stayed with someone who cheated on him through the marriage which means he isn't a god decision maker. He isn't right for you no matter how he makes you feel when you are with him.
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Registered: 04-02-2007
Sat, 07-26-2008 - 5:21pm

Carrie and gina are right..

This guy is not ready to date, he has a lot on his plate and needs time to sort through that and heal from his marriage before being ready for a relationship with anyone. I give him props for being honest with you and letting you know where he is at... LISTEN TO HIM. If you continue with this you really will have no one to blame but yourself for the hurt you will most likely experience.

You two DO NOT really know each other, you are not the same people you were 10 years ago, it takes time to get to know someone again, you have this ideal in your head of what it was like years ago, that is not the reality.

Right now you need to concentrate on YOU, what you want for your life, where you want to be in your life. Figure out where you want to find a job, get on with your life, and if somewhere down the road, you meet back up and he is healed from his divorce, got his life in order, and you still want to try then go for.....But right now he isn't ready. Because you will only be hurting yourself in the process if you try to make this more than it is.