A Sorta Rebound Question

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Registered: 04-19-2004
A Sorta Rebound Question
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Mon, 04-19-2004 - 12:25pm
I have been dating this guy for almost a year now we get along great!!! Better than anyone I have been with before, and he always says he feels the same. that I care\Love him very much. My question is though, He was in a long relationship before we got together (4years and he says she treated him crappy for the most part)as was I, but I feel sometimes his ex is still on his mind. I feel this way because now and then he still compares her to me (but in a way that I am better than her)when he does that I get kinda Jealous and feel he still feels for her. I dont do that with him and my ex at all, and when he brings her up in a story in his past about sex\and other things I get very jealous inside and dont want to hear it, I have never met the girl,and i have never told him how i feel about the ex thing because I am scared hell think I am over bearing, or too Jealous. Please let me know if i am just being to jealous or is this normal, and will I get over it???????
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 04-19-2004 - 1:12pm
He may not have completely healed from the break-up, but it's not fair to you or the relationship for him to use you as a sounding board in regards to her. I think you have every right to say, 'when you tell me those types of stories about you and her, I really wonder if you are over her.....maybe you need some more time to heal.'


Carrie