Special someone is MIA

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Registered: 03-21-2002
Special someone is MIA
Mon, 04-19-2004 - 11:46am
I've been seeing this guy for the last two months, and all of a sudden, he's no longer returning my phone calls or acting particularly nice to me. The entire time we've dated he's had a problem of saying he'll call and then doesn't... which is one of my biggest pet peeves.

We started seeing each other at the end of February, went out on dates and got to know each other. We slept over at each other's places (no sex involved!) in March, and then about two weeks ago we finally slept together.

Before we did the deed, we would stay up to all hours of the night talking about random things or sharing things about our personal lives (ie. family, jobs, friends, things we like to do, what we want to accomplish)

One night at the end of March, he told me that he got a job in Virgina (we live in Illinois) and that he'd be moving in September and be stationed at the base there for 17 weeks. (He's in the reserves.) He asked me what I thought of that, and I told him it was awesome that he got a position doing what he wants to do. Later that night, he kept asking me what my "future career plans" were and where I wanted to go and all that... so I took it as he was really interested in my future, and whether or not I'd be a part of his.

We decided about a month ago that neither of us were/wanted to see other people, but we never said we were classifying each other as "boyfriend/girlfriend". I've hung out with his friends and he's met mine, and last week he flew home to visit family for Easter. I saw him on Easter sunday, talked to him for very short periods of time during the week while he was gone, and then we went out Friday. We hadn't seen each other in five days, so we were having fun just being around each other again.

He had to work friday night and I went to the city to clubbing, and when I got home, he was rude to me and didn't want to listen to how my night was, even though he asked. He said he was too tired-- but he wasn't too tired to have sex with me. The next morning he was being rude again, and I asked if I would talk to him that afternoon (I had to go to work) and he said that he'd call before he left for work.

He never called me, so I called him, but no answer. I called him about six or seven hours later, and still no answer, and no return call. I did the same on Sunday- called around four, then again around 11pm... and no answer/no return call.

All of a sudden, he's gone MIA and I don't know what's going on...

Can anyone help me with this?!