stay or go WHICH ONE??
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stay or go WHICH ONE??
| Sat, 06-14-2008 - 4:30pm |
Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together since 11-1-05. We were always together and were like best friends BUT now that we moved in with my sister and her boyfriend<-wich is my boyfriend's Best friend, we have been arguing a lot because it seems like he is dissing me over his "boy"....he works from 4pm to 12am everyday except weekends and i miss hm a lot so of course

Welcome to the board mommy_nycha,
It's hard to be with someone that doesn't act like they want to be with you and won't spend time with you.
It's not a matter of stay or go. It's a matter of working on your relationship. All relationships have bumps along the road. Whether the relationship works out or not depends upon whether the couple can talk things through and have the tools and skills which permit them to work their issues through. He needs to learn how to stay and talk instead of run away when he's upset. If he can't do this on his own, a few sessions with a couples counsellor would help. Perhaps he feels he'd be criticized if he expressed his feelings? Perhaps he himself doesn't know what he feels. It sounds as though he could use more self awareness. Tell him that these patterns are disturbing for you and for the relationship and that you'd like to find a way for the two of you to work them out and find better solutions. If he is unwilling to do so, if he will not face things and try to change, then he is not someone with whom it will be easy to build a lasting, positive healthy relationship.
Best wishes,
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