stay or leave?

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Registered: 09-19-2011
stay or leave?
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 12:35am

hello everyone. i been in a relationship for over 2 years. i am 22 and my boyfriend is 24 years old. the first year of our relationship was a long distance relationship but for the past 15 months we moved in together. i am a student and also work full time by boyfriend also had a very commiting job 24/7 type of job. my father doesnt really like my boyfriend because he thinks my boyfriend is too much of a kid which is true and things i deserve someone better. in the past few months my bf and i have gone through alot, including arguments, fights, and stuff that could been preventable. what really bothers me about him is the fact that he is not mature, makes me feel embbarrassed at times, and

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 12:45am

You may "love" many things about your b/f, but you're not happy with him.

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Registered: 09-19-2011
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 1:46am

i understand your point. last saturday my b/f and i had a big argument and i completely lost control i felt like i couldnt do it anymore but later when my b/f understood i was very frastrated he tried going back and making up for things the next day got me beautiful flowers and since my bday is coming up next week he decided to pay for my plastic surgery which was very generous since its few thousand dollars. what i am trying to say is that my b/f has many great qualities that is very hard to find in a guy now these days like being hard working and a provider, trutful and very loyal which is a very important to have but the issue of him being immature really bothers me. my mom and friends said that i need to make a list of positive and negative aspects and i know my b/f had many positive qualities which i am afraid i wont find in other guy. i dont want to hurt my b/f afterall we been together for

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Registered: 10-29-2006
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 8:41am
Hold on! You don't know if you love him but you are going to let him pay for your plastic surgery??? What??? You have got to be kidding me! You let the man give up his life and friends to move across the country to be with you and you don't know if yoo love him? Girl, he may be immature but that can be cured with time & experience. It isn't quite so easy to overcome a lack of morals and not having a conscience.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 11:56am

You know you are really young (my DD's age) & you have been w/ this guy since you were 20.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 12:08pm

You're calling him immature, but what you're saying now is very immature.