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Stay or Run?
| Fri, 03-09-2007 - 11:08pm |
I met this DJ 8 months ago at the club he works at and at the time I thought he just wanted in my pants. We saw each other 4 more times in the past 8 months at the club before we exchanged numbers and I was half drunk when that happened. Its been a week and he is talking about marriage, kids, and how much we are perfect for each other. He has already asked me to be his girlfriend, he even offered to give me a key to his house. He is the DJ part time Friday and Saturday nights and he wanted me to stay in his house until he got home. I don't know anyone that would allow someone they barely knew to stay in their home unattended, much less suggest it. He is always telling me when someone has hit on him or made a comment about wanting him. I know that is an insecurity thing but it drives me crazy. I don't care who said what to him. He really is a sweet guy, his house is cleaner than mine, and he is very attentive, but I see red flags. He has a ton of qualities that I want in a man but I have never met someone so impulsive and ready for a relationship before. Am I just scared that this could be the one or am I justified in feeling a little creeped out?

I think you're in a very wise place. You're open to the possibility of a relationship, but you're open to seeing red flags as well.
If I were you, I'd not dump and run (as I often recommend!) because he does have a lot of good traits. However, I would tell him that talk of the future and key exchanging needs to wait till you know each other better.
But do continue to keep your eyes open for red flags.
Hi lexross,
I want to make sure I understand what you've written.... it's been a week since you exchanged numbers and he's wanting you to stay at his place and talking of marriage and children?
Hmmmm....I got stuck with the 8 months since having met and didn't place enough significance on just been one week since exchanging numbers.
Perhaps my answer wasn't cautious enough.