Staying together

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Registered: 10-16-2004
Staying together
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Sat, 10-16-2004 - 10:18pm
I have been with my boyfriend for a year. I am his first serious relationship. Just the other day we got in to a huge fight and then decided that we needed to take a break from each other. After sitting and really thinking things through I realized that we didn't need a break so I called him and tried talking in out of it. We then got into a whole new conversation, he said that I was his only relationship and he wanted to explore and see what else was out there. This brought so much pain to me..I tried to except it but only a day had passed and I was a mess, my heart had just been broken. I broke down and had to see him face to face. I went over to his apartment and said that if he needed space to clear his mind then that was understandable but if he wanted to explore and date other people I wouldn't beable to put myself through that pain of seeing him with other girls. So I told him that if he believed there was possible someone else out there then I wasn't the 'one' for him and I would have to let him go...he then looked at me and gave me a huge hug and said that he didn't want to be with anyone else but me and he knows that I care about him more then any other women could. And he apologized for hurting me...Is he sincere or do you think that his mind could be wondering..what should I believe and if he is sincere what do I do to get our relationship back to where it was?? Any suggestions would be appreciated!!
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 7:43pm
As hard as it is, let him go explore or he will always wonder and it could cause more trouble later on. Focus on you and your healing, sorry you have to go through this.


Carrie

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 8:25pm
Only time will tell how he really feels. Chances are that if he admitted the desire to date others once, then it will come up again. See how things go but don't be surprised when he needs a break again. I am sorry you have to go through this.
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Registered: 01-20-2004
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 10:39am
Don't force him to stay with you. Why would you want someone to be with you against their will? This is setting the stage for disaster and possible cheating in the future. Let him go away and don't act so hurt, even though you are. If he really is the one that is meant for you he will come back around in time. If not, someone better is out there. I know it hurts now but time heals all wounds. Don't call, e-mail, drive over, nothing! Let him think about the decisions he's making. If he truly does love you...nothing will stop him from coming back to make things right. I have found this out the hard way.