Step-daughters b-day party
Hi everyone,
I was wondering what others would do in this situation. My husband's ex is planning a b-day party (a sleep over) for my SD. She wants to rent hotel room at a resort so the girls can play in the pool and clean up is minimal. My SD will be 13. Though I think this a little odd, I don't really see anything wrong with it. Well, the ex invited me to stay the night at the hotel with her and the girls.....I must say I was surprised. My first reaction is "Are you kidding??" I don't want to want to have anything more to do with the ex than I absolutely have to. My H and I have had a very strained relationship (if you can call it that) with his ex...she's been very hateful and mean on many occasions, selfish, and has made it it extremely difficult to remain civil. She has some moments of, I suppose, 'trying' to play nice. I've always tried to be neutral, a go between for my H and his ex, to help make it easier for my SD. I have a really good relationship with my SD. But I can't fathom spending this much time with this woman whom I truly don't like. I think it would be hypocritical of me to act like I'm ok with her when I'm not. Not only am I not thrilled about hanging out with an ex of my H's, but I REALLY don't like her as a person. She's done some really hurtful things to a lot of peple. So, I basically told her thanks for the invite, but no thanks. I have a feeling my SD is the one who wants me to come to the party. I sort of feel bad about not going because of my SD'd feelings, but really, she'll be busy playing with her friends and I'd be left making small talk with a woman I can barely stand to be around. Maybe the ex is trying to reach out to me, but I doubt it...and even if she is, I really have no desire to even try to be more than politely civil. I'm I being selfish by not going to the party or is this really not a big deal?