Stepchildren

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Registered: 05-03-2004
Stepchildren
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 8:55am
I have been married for 3 years and have no biological children. However, my husband has 4 children and for the last 2 years we have temporary custody of his 2 younger kids ages 5 and 9. Their bio-mom is mentally unstable with a violent temper. I love these children like they are my own. The 5 year old calls me MOM. The 9 year old girl, has her loyality to her mom,(understandable) and has difficulty with me and my role as the MOM. She is in counselling for the abuse she recieved by her mother. The little man (5 year old) has filled the gap for me ( I am having some female problems and unable to concieve).

Here is a quick little story: The little boy was calling me mom and mad a reference about his "auntie" meaing his bio mom, his sister said that she is not his auntie that she is our mom, and I am the stepmother. The little boy looked at his sister and said Well who takes care of us, who cooks, who tucks us in etc..

Now, his older son has come to visit for the summer and he wants to stay with us. He is a good kid and he missed his Dad- his mom refused to allow him to visit due to previous ex being violent. How do I deal with a 15 year old teenager? He is very clingy to his dad, and I feel he is invading our "private times", by wanting his dads undividing attention. Help, how do I address with sounding like the "wicked stepmother"?

Thank you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: sarah1230
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 9:12am
Just had a quick look around iVillage. You might get some very specific advice on these boards.

Step Parents

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-psstepparent

Parents of Teens

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-psteens

Blended Families

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-psblended

Good luck

Eve :-)