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| Fri, 09-03-2004 - 9:38am |
I AM NEW TO THIS SITE LOOKING FOR ALL THE ADVISE I CAN GET ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE BEEN WITH EACHOTHER FOR FOUR AND AHALF YEARS WE HAVE HAD OUR UP AND DOWNS LIKE EVERY RELATIONSHIPS BUT ON 8/27/04 I WENT INTO HIS EMAIL ACCOUNT WHICH I SHOULD HAVE NOT BUT I SEEN A EMAIL THAT HE HAD RESPONSED TO FROM A OLD GIRLFIREND FORM A LONG TIME AGO THE EMAIL HAD ASKED HIM ABOUT HIS LIFE IN GENERAL AND HE ASKED HER IF SHE WAS SEEING ANYONE AND THAT HE WAS NOT TRYING TO GET ALL INTO HER PERSONAL INFORMATION SO I GO HOME AND ASKED IF HE HAD TALKED TO ANYONE THE GIRL HAS HIS CELL PHONE NUMBER SO I WAS CURIOUS OF WHAT IS GOING ON HE STATES THAT OF COURSE IT WAS NOT HIM WE DO NOT HAVE A COMPUTER AT HOME AND THE EMAIL WAS SENT WHEN IT WAS AT HOME SO I AM SO CONFUSED DO I THINK THAT HE IS SEEING HER OR DO I LET IT GO PLEASE HELP ME I LOVE HIM WE HAVE A TWO YEAR DAUGHTER BY THE WAY I JUST NEED SOME ADVISE WHAT DO TO

Without honesty and trust your relationship with have difficulties. You did see the email and what he wrote so obviously something is going on. What it is you don't know. You must let your boyfriend know that it is crucial that he be honest with you, not only about this, but about his feelings about your relationship and whether it is working for him? Is he happy, satisfied? Are there issues the two of you need to work on? Just putting our heads in the sand and hiding isn't the answer. Facing a situation head on and dealing with what may be causing it is always a better idea. There is a fine line between blaming him for something you are not sure of and honestly working together to make things the best they can be. When you talk to him don't be judgmental and critical, but open and fair. Let him know you want things to work between you and need to truly understand what is happening now.
All best wishes.
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