yes you are being too hard on him.......Get counseling for yourself.... I understand you were scared BUT taking it out on your husband is the wrong thing to do, what happened to you was terrible but that doesn't give you the right to treat him like this.
YES you are being too hard on him. He did not do anything wrong, he tried calling you twice and as far as he was concerned at the time, you didn't pick up or talk to him. It would have been almost unreasonable for him to automatically assume you were in danger. But you know what, I can completely understand your anger. It's normal to react that way to someone who neglected to come to your aid immediately even if he didn't know you needed it. Instead of being angry at him though, be angry at the man who attacked you. He is the only person at fault for what happened. Your husband sounds like a really good guy who feels awful about what happened. Please try forgiving him, and he may ease up. I completely agree that it would be helpful for you to see a grief counselor for a few sessions just to come to terms with the situation.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you, it wasn't fair. There are times it really sucks to be a woman, it's rare for us to be able to be surprised by an attacker and just punch him in the face like another man. Maybe it would also be a good idea to take a self-defense class, they are extremely valuable and they teach you how to get the upper hand in a threatening situation even when you are not as physically strong.
I agree with the other posters that you are being too hard on your husband. He really had no way of knowing that you weren't okay when you didn't answer the phone and it is understandable that he is unconcerned about you know.
What you went through had to have been really scary and I think getting some short term counseling to help you deal with the trauma would be a good idea. Maybe also look into an alarm system for your home and maybe you could carry around some mace to help ease you and your husband's fears.
As I've said it's a normal human reaction, and I understand you being upset, even at your husband. Truly I do. But you are trying to JUSTIFY your anger toward him and that's not right. You're actually making your husband out to look a lot worse than the man that broke in and tied you to a bed. Yes I know you are feeling frustrated but what's done is done, and you have to let him out of this. Certainly he's doing more than his share of making up for it, right? If this ever happened again (God forbid) I imagine things would be different.
I disagree that counseling isn't necessary if you're still holding your husband responsible for this event. You may not agree with the responses you've received but you did ask for them. It's not right that you continue to place blame on your husband, eventually you will have to let him off the hook. There's no other way to go on than to forgive him. He can't do any more to make this better, it's not physically possible.
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yes you are being too hard on him.......Get counseling for yourself.... I understand you were scared BUT taking it out on your husband is the wrong thing to do, what happened to you was terrible but that doesn't give you the right to treat him like this.
YES you are being too hard on him. He did not do anything wrong, he tried calling you twice and as far as he was concerned at the time, you didn't pick up or talk to him. It would have been almost unreasonable for him to automatically assume you were in danger. But you know what, I can completely understand your anger. It's normal to react that way to someone who neglected to come to your aid immediately even if he didn't know you needed it. Instead of being angry at him though, be angry at the man who attacked you. He is the only person at fault for what happened. Your husband sounds like a really good guy who feels awful about what happened. Please try forgiving him, and he may ease up. I completely agree that it would be helpful for you to see a grief counselor for a few sessions just to come to terms with the situation.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you, it wasn't fair. There are times it really sucks to be a woman, it's rare for us to be able to be surprised by an attacker and just punch him in the face like another man. Maybe it would also be a good idea to take a self-defense class, they are extremely valuable and they teach you how to get the upper hand in a threatening situation even when you are not as physically strong.
Yes, you are being too hard on him.
Welcome to the board c.j.1985,
I agree with the other posters that you are being too hard on your husband. He really had no way of knowing that you weren't okay when you didn't answer the phone and it is understandable that he is unconcerned about you know.
What you went through had to have been really scary and I think getting some short term counseling to help you deal with the trauma would be a good idea. Maybe also look into an alarm system for your home and maybe you could carry around some mace to help ease you and your husband's fears.
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Welcome to the board c.j.1985,
You've been through a traumatic event.
Well,
Your frustration is normal.
As I've said it's a normal human reaction, and I understand you being upset, even at your husband. Truly I do. But you are trying to JUSTIFY your anger toward him and that's not right. You're actually making your husband out to look a lot worse than the man that broke in and tied you to a bed. Yes I know you are feeling frustrated but what's done is done, and you have to let him out of this. Certainly he's doing more than his share of making up for it, right? If this ever happened again (God forbid) I imagine things would be different.
I disagree that counseling isn't necessary if you're still holding your husband responsible for this event. You may not agree with the responses you've received but you did ask for them. It's not right that you continue to place blame on your husband, eventually you will have to let him off the hook. There's no other way to go on than to forgive him. He can't do any more to make this better, it's not physically possible.
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'when he called back and got a busy signal, this certainly should have triggered some sort of suspicious reaction.
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