Still feeling bound and gagged

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2008
Still feeling bound and gagged
20
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 2:45am

I'm a 23 year old woman and my

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2008
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 6:35pm

Please understand that I don't blame my husband for the fact that a total stranger broke into our house and tied me up in

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 7:12pm

You reaction at the time WAS justifiable.

131.gif image by y_baros th5K.gif image by jade_simo

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 7:27pm

That's just it though cj, he DOES understand the way you reacted and that's why he's acting this way toward you now... Please don't feel as though you have to prove anything to him, I think it's clear that he feels some responsibility in it (really, though, even if you had managed to call him it would not have changed your situation much)... Again I'm sure he does feel badly and wants to prevent it in the future. You two need to be a team now and focus on how better to protect yourselves/one another/your home in the future.

How would I have reacted at the moment? Probably the same way. I would have cried and been angry at him even if it wasn't his fault, because a lot of us women (myself included) have sort of an innate trust in our chosen man to protect us physically from harm. Maybe that is what you are feeling right now.

Don't isolate yourself, be a couple with him, tell him how you're feeling and that you want to get over it WITH him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 5:23am

Wow, you were lucky on several counts.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 10:26am

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 2:23pm

It is truly unfortunate as to what happened.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 10:15pm

If the situation was reversed...how would you have handled it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 6:54am

>>Or..maybe he should have called the operator to see if something was wrong with the phone line.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 12:08pm

Should'ves and Could'ves are hindsight, often used to shift blame and guilt to another person for not doing something in a very exact way.


This has been going on for a few weeks -

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 5:13pm
IMO, we

Pages