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still talking to the ex on the phone
| Sat, 06-12-2004 - 9:07pm |
HELP!!! I just don't know what to do. My boyfriend of 5 months (who I just moved in with after selling my house) still talks to his ex girlfriend on the phone 2-3 times a week. I knew this before I moved in...call me stupid!! They were together for 5 years off and on, but things were pretty hostile from what I understand, however they remain good friends. My question is this...is it possible for them to be ONLY friends. They don't see each other and talk on the phone only at work (they are in the same line of business). (he says it's because weekends and evenings are "our time")She has been living with someone else for the last year and a half and he did not date ANYONE for the last year and a half since their breakup. Knowing that, I guess they would have gotten back together during that time if that was the plan. I know there isn't anything between them now, but I worry about later. She has asked him private things about our relationship, which I didn't appreciate. He promised that he wouldn't discuss anything with her that upset me. It should be noted that HE broke up with her. She even had the audacity of asking if the "four of us" could get together for dinner. Sorry...that's not for me. He continuously tells me that "he loves me, comes home to me everynight, and moved me in....why on earth would he do that if he didn't want to be with me?" This is the ONLY problem that we have and it eats me alive...please help!!!

Yes he may not have done anything to give you these feeling of insecurities but it sounds like it is, and it is giving you alot of anxiety over it. Your relationship is so new it will take time to totally trust.
If he truly loves you he will do this for your sake, I hope he does. Maybe there will come a time when you feel secure enough and you will must likely be surprised when that time comes that there was nothing to fear.
Does he talk to his other friends 2-3 times a week on the phone from work? If not, then something is wrong with this picture. If she's using him as her 'best friend' while living with another guy, I wonder if her guy knows she's talking to her ex (your guy)?
Carrie