Stop asking me!!!

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Registered: 12-10-2007
Stop asking me!!!
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Mon, 12-10-2007 - 2:23pm

My boyfriend is constantly asking if I'm pregnant. I mean, at least once a week. We've both agreed to wait until a few years after we're married to

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 2:41pm

I'm getting very frustrated. Am I just over reacting? How can I convince him I REALLY don't want kids anytime soon and get him to stop hassling me about the topic?


show him your birth control pills and condoms - if that doesn't stop then i don't know what will..


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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 2:46pm

Welcome to the board the_tater_bug,


I have to say that it doesn't sound like your bf should be in a sexually active relationship if he is going to ask your every week if your are pg.


Tell him that if he is that worried about it than you will stop having sex wih him.


He should really trust you if you are sexually active.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 3:54pm

Before you can get him to stop asking, you need to find out where his concerns stem from and address the specific concern


a) Does he not trust you?

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 4:34pm

"I have to say that it doesn't sound like your bf should be in a sexually active relationship if he is going to ask your every week if your are pg."

Unfortunately this is the right answer. If he can't trust you to be safe about birth control, then he should not be having sex with you. If I were you I'd feel really annoyed.

Suggest using condoms if that calms his mind for a more tangible form of birth control. If he is against that then I don't think you should continue sleeping with him.

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Tue, 12-11-2007 - 8:12pm

Thank you everyone. I know he definately doesn't have any past pregnancy problems. He might be slightly obsessive. I sat him down and asked him if he didn't trust me and if he would be more reassured if I tried a form of birth control (I couldn't keep up with the pills so I'll try the injection). Basically I said no kiddo was going to come along for a very long time and it offended me that he asked me to take a test because,

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Tue, 12-11-2007 - 8:26pm
If you couldn't keep up with the pills then maybe he DID have a cause to worry...
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 10:46am
I never told him about that though. I told him they weren't working for me so I'd try a new method, but that was about a year ago. Yes, I guess that is a reason to be concerned though.
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 11:13am
So were you using any method of birth control?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 4:02pm

Your boyfriend has fear it seems about the possibility of your becoming pregnant. It's some kind of obsession with him and it has nothing to do with his wanting you to have a child now. Although I understand how troubling this must be for you, it's good to realize that he's not hassling you to have a child - he's only asking you to assuage his fear. Perhaps some counseling for him is in order.


All good wishes,

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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 4:20pm

he would be more reassured if I tried a form of birth control


umm, you're not using any form of birth control??

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