stressed and sick over it

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Registered: 05-21-2007
stressed and sick over it
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Mon, 05-21-2007 - 11:49am
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 18 months. we're around the same age 20 and 22. He has become my best friend. we share the same values, hes intellectual, and he inspires me. we get along great, except in the physical aspect of our relationship. We dont have sex as much as we used to and it's because of me. Im not interested in it anymore. Im not interested in cuddling, making out, i don't even enjoy spending the night at his place like i used to; i much prefer being at my house in my own bed. I dont know what the heck happened.i used to love sex and thought it was the best i ever had. the only thing that i could blame it on was about 5 or 6 months into our relationship, there was this girl that we both worked with, who was the same age as him ( and she was one of the pretty girls at work)and my boyfriend was friends with her brother who also worked with us. to make this story short, this girl started acting funny towards my boyfriend, calling him just to talk and what not. i didn't say much but i think i cut myself off emotionaly so i wouldn't get hurt, just to be safe incase anything happened. then as our relationship started to move on, my boyfriend talked about moving to california to persue a career, which scared me b/c i did not want to go to california and i would never do a long distance relationship. so i think i pulled away even more, emotionaly. so after all these incidences, i found myself renewing my relationships with my guy friends which consisted of harmless flirting. but now ive found i can't renew my emotions in my relationship. i dont know what to do. is there anything i can do?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 05-21-2007 - 3:11pm

Welcome to the board speedy2123,


The question is, do you want to reconnect with him, be vulnerable to him again?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 05-21-2007 - 4:34pm

I think Carrie is right. You need to figure out if you want to go back to the way things were at the beginning of the relationship. If you do, than talk to him about everything.


Good luck.


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