Stressed, confused, and not happy....don't know what to do

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Registered: 11-22-2011
Stressed, confused, and not happy....don't know what to do
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Tue, 11-22-2011 - 11:25pm

This is my first time using a message board.

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Registered: 05-20-2009

I'm confused.

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Registered: 07-29-2002

This is one of those situations where life takes a toll on the marriage.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
So you are taking care of 7 kids all day and he expects the house to be spotless? What does he do all day?
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Registered: 05-18-2009
So you're the breadwinner, you take care of both the kids including 5 others, you're also apparently the maid, laundry lady and head chef. What on earth does your lazy arsed husband do all day? I wouldn't want to kiss this guy either. If you built this "do everything" role for yourself and enabled him to do nothing for eleven years, then shame on you. But I don't think a husband is so wonderful when he saddles his wife with doing everything. This may be just my opinion but a man should want to ease the burdens of those he loves. I'm certain he would love you to continue doing everything for him AND having sex with him. Yeah that sounds like a great "partnership"... For him. What do you get out of it? I completely understand that you need an emotional connection to even begin to want sex, but how can you possibly have an emotional connection with someone who doesn't really make you feel safe and cared for because you're fending for yourself AND taking care of everyone else? I would feel too resentful to ever be "in the mood". "From the outside, everything looks wonderful." Not to me.