STRIP CLUBS - Yay or nay when you're in a relationship?

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Registered: 01-30-2012
STRIP CLUBS - Yay or nay when you're in a relationship?
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Tue, 11-06-2012 - 10:49am

Hey, everyone. I'm curious to know how both the men and women out there feel about this. I've been with my BF for 4 months. Our relationship was very sexual from the beginning and I actually made it a point to keep it only on that level for a while because i didn't want a serious relationship. But time has passed and emotions can't be denied so here he is telling me he loves me and here I am realizing I think I feel the same. We really enjoy our time together, etc. BUT I have never been someone who would condone my BF going to strip clubs unless for a bachelor party. This guy has been going to them for years with one friend in particular and even dated and lived with a stripper for a couple of years just prior to our relationship. I don't judge, I don't really care about his past - everybody has one. However, now I'm wondering if I should be offended that he still goes occasionally, like twice a month. I've never asked him to stop and I don't think he has any intention of doing so. Ladies, how would you feel about this? And guys, why would you continue going to strip clubs if you're having great sex with a hot girl whom you claim to love? FYI, we're both intensely sexual people, possibly more than most and I don't feel insecure about this just a little confused as to whether I'm not seeing the big picture because this is a completely alien experience for me. Your comments and opinions are greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 01-25-2010

  I am male and I love sex.  But I love myself too.  I am old enough to do what is good for me and not be controlled.  Either accept him as he is or not.  It seem that you are on the same sexual wavelenght.  This is something you must understand.  It is only you who can make that choice.  Asking others what they would do is not constructive because none of us is you.  We are all different. In this decision you are alone.

dragowoman

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Registered: 04-16-2008
I also think regularly going to them does sound kinda sleazy. But since he's been doing it for years I doubt he's going to stop going because his GF of 4 mths "doesn't condone it" Personally, I think this hanging out in the strip clubs every couple weeks is not occasional (as would be just going for a bachelor party once in a great while) and I would not condone it either. But only you can decide if his frequenting strip clubs is a dealbreaker.

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