Struggling with explosive behavior
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Struggling with explosive behavior
| Wed, 10-05-2011 - 12:16pm |
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It's delusional for him to look at these episodes of violent behavior in his life and, instead of thinking HE might be the common denominator, blaming everyone else for exaggerating.
I think you should wait until your anger dies down and then talk with him during a time he is not upset. I would use these words:
"If you don't want to get counseling that's up to you, but this became a huge problem for me when you made me feel threatened physically. If you don't intend to make changes to your anger with a professional, I'm not going to stay in a house, or let my children stay in a house, where anger becomes physical. Please just do this for your family and for the sake of your job."
I was going to suggest that he go to EAP.
Suggest a physical checkup as well for since this is recent behavior then *something* must have changed? because a chemical imbalance? Have him tell the doctor what is going on so he can run any specific tests that look for a possible cause.
If thi is new behavior, then of course something is wrong with him.