Stubborn and sensitive Boyfriend.

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Registered: 10-16-2007
Stubborn and sensitive Boyfriend.
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Tue, 10-16-2007 - 7:11pm

I have been with my BF for about 3yrs. I have a son with him and live with him actually. We have lived together for 7months. But we fight a lot I am older than him. I don’t know he is very immature but I love him and he is a really good man. Just very stubborn and easily gets tense and uptight over little things. OR things that are normal but maybe a man with out experience which he doesn’t have much gets mad. I tried to talk to him about this but he doesn’t listen has too much pride. He says that I changed im not as affectionate any more but than when I try to be to show him he just gets really quiet and doesn’t say nothing .. More than anything he is a very tense person always in the verb or being cranky and easily hurt I could be in a good mood all day, and he will too but if I say one little thing that upsets him he just shuts down and is so serious the whole day... That is getting very irrititaded and annoying.

And the worst part, is I cant even study because he is so sensitve and wants attention. That is very frusterating because I want to be able to study with peace in my mind and he contantly tense thinking he wants attention. When I ask him he says no that everythign is fine but than he is so serious and quiet like he is bother. He will not admit it..

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 7:24pm

You're trying to talk to him and through conversation make him someone he's not.

He's stubborn and sensitive, and I assume that he's been this way since the beginning. You need to accept him for who he is, not who you want him to be or who you think he could be.

Are YOU okay with that? Do you really want to be with him despite the parts of him that you don't like? If his personality is really bothering you, it means that he isn't right for you. I can understand that you want to make it work with him, but it's up to you to decide whether you can accept someone the way he is.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 12:44am

Welcome to the board prettysmile27,


Immature just about covers it.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 10:59am

Welcome to the board prettysmile27,


It does seem as if your bf is immature. Did you notice this before you moved in together or after? Since he seems to be wanting more attention from you maybe you could try and have a date night every couple of weeks where you get a babysitter and then go out together for some quality time.

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