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Stupid Mistake
| Fri, 11-23-2007 - 2:09pm |
OK - Here goes. My fiance has suspected that I have been text messaging an ex for a few weeks now. Me being stupid, denied it. My fiance went onto my cell phone account (with my permission) to look to get me a new phone for Christmas. My fiance saw about 20 text messages to my ex over a four month span. All of these text messages were innocent, but as I didn't tell my fiance that I had heard from my ex and worse yet, lied when asked if I had heard from my ex, my fiance is very upset. My fiance now feels like the trust is gone in our relationship. To make matters worse, the week before this happened, I had been flirting with a bartender. The bartender started flirting with me and I used it to get free drinks for my fiance, our friends and I. My fiance told me that they didn't like this behavior, so I will now cease this type of activity. My fiance was present the whole time. So - what can I do to salvage our relationship? I have called my ex with my fiance present and told my ex that I did not want to have any contact with them. I also changed my cell phone number so my ex could not get in touch with me.

Welcome to the board fishing21,
Rebuilding trust after a betrayal (lying) is not easy to do. It usually requires counseling and full accountability.
You're going to have to prove it by spending a long time simply BEING trustworthy.
It might sound mean, but when someone writes into this board telling us that their boyfriend/girlfriend lies about contact with an ex and is flirting with other people, we encourage them to leave because everyone is better off without a liar.
Start being a person worth being with.
I am unable to give legal or medical advice. My opinions are based on my experiences and my personal research.