Summer Affair

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Registered: 06-30-2011
Summer Affair
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Thu, 06-30-2011 - 8:52pm

I have a boyfriend, of 3 years, but we don't spend as much time together anymore because of his job. We have also had a ton of relationship problems: trust, cheating, break-ups, and arguing. So since it's the summer time and I have no job, I have alot of time on my hands to waste. I recently started to text an old friend, Q. He is a marine and will be returning back home in a week. He stays in the same apartment building as me. We had feelings for each other before but I was really committed to my boyfriend. Now that my boyfriend and I have had many problems in the past, I feel okay with talking to Q. We are planning to just hang out while he is back in town but I think something will happen. I don't know if I should hook up with Q or stay faithful to my boyfriend. My boyfriend has lost most of my trust, cheated, and we always argue. I still love him and am not trying to get back at him but I really want to see where my summer affair will take me. What do you think I should consider doing?

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 11:30pm

Curiousjay-

Hi. You've been with your boyfriend for three years and things clearly aren't working out. You don't want to devote more of your life to a relationship leading nowhere. Meanwhile, many men don't want a woman who is cheating on a boyfriend. I know it would be a dealbreaker for me. This particularly applies to men who value being

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 12:20am

If your relationship with Q is so screwed up, why are you staying in it?

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 12:22am
Why do you alway repeat the OP's post? It's right there at the top where everyone can see it.. Just type your reply like everyone else does.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 1:47am

Is a summer affair better than any other season?

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 8:31am
fissatore wrote:
Why do you alway repeat the OP's post?...

Because I can!!!!

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 11:01am

I understand about the "quotations".........I do that myself sometimes......I just cut and paste the line I'm referring to.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 11:44am

I wouldn't complicate things with your BF by cheating with someone else. If you wanna be with someone else, then break up with your BF.

All this brings to mind a question. Why are you still with someone who has lost almost all of your trust because of his cheating on you? Because you have nothing better to do? He is a time filler?

Do you really see yourself with this guy in the long term, a cheater that you do not trust? Of course not, who would want that for the rest of your life? So if your relationship with your BF is not going anywhere, then why not end it now and move on with your life and onto someone you might actually want to spend the rest of your life with.