Summer Holiday: I just can't afford what she wants
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|Mon, 01-20-2014 - 11:04am|
I took my girlfriend of 4 years and her 12 year son on a holiday last year to Salina. It was expensive (close to £10,000) and meant going into some money I was lucky to have saved during some years when I was a contractor. Note: I gave up contracting about two years ago so that I could take a permanent job and never have to travel away; therefore spending all my evenings and weekends with my girlfriend. This also meant taking a significant cut in pay. I now can not save anything. Some months, I'm spending more than I earn.
Simply put, I just can't afford to go away on an expensive holiday this year. In fact, I'd rather not go away at all. I'd rather take time off work and spend the time together going for some days out somewhere. Of course, I realise this is just not going to sit well with my girlfriend who is already setting her sights on a holiday to Corfu that will cost me a minimum of 4,000-5,000. We live in Germany so I'm thinking that as a compromise we could do something in mainland Europe, for example rent an apartment and spend some time in the country or seeing the sights. I already know that my girlfriend will flip out when I suggest the compromise.
What do you think?
Is it unreasonable of my girlfriend to expect a holiday? If she truly loved and cared for me, would she be prepared to not go away for a summer holiday? etc etc.
EDIT: What about I talking about. Even 4,000-5,000 is too much! 2,000-3,000 is a stretch but I'd do that to compromise. I've just come home and I'm shaking at the prospect of engaging in a discussion about this because I know how she reacts. I should change my login name from alwaysaknight to alwaysadoormat. I know that money is a frequent topic of conflict in a relationship but this situation is just terrible. Hope someone can help me find the way here.