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supposed to leave tomorrow, help!
| Fri, 08-20-2004 - 1:13pm |
i wrote recently about how i have seen my ex (while i am currently in a committed relatioship)...my ex and i kissed, etc. etc. my current BF and i are supposed to leave for vacation tomorrow to visit his fmaily. i came down with strep throat and don't feel well, so i told him i might not be up for traveling on a plane, etc. i do have to admit though that i kind of want to see my ex again and that is a part of the reason i don't want to go. what i truly want is to let go of my ex and try to make this relationship with my current bf work. so, help do i go on the trip or cancel???

The other issue is that you are not over your ex and you are not honest with your current bf. Get real here. The vacation isn't going to help or hinder your problem. Be honest with yourself and your boyfriend. He deserves it. More importantly he deserves a woman who wants what he wants in a relationship.
By the way, it helps everyone if you just update on your old post instead of starting a new one.
Carrie
Whether or not you can go on the trip physically is a medical question if you have strep throat. Consult your medical doctor about this. If you can go medically, and you do want to work on your relationship with your boyfriend, then I would go. Certainly seeing your ex again and kissing him, etc., is not the way to go if you want to make things better with your current boyfriend. It sounds as though you still have feelings for your ex that you haven't completely resolved and that this is clearly getting in the way of your relationship with your present boyfriend. The way to work those feelings through is not by meeting with him, but by talking them out with a counsellor...seeing him again only stirs the feelings up and makes you want to resume the relationship. While a conflict like this is natural, it certainly can stop a person from committing fully to a new person and moving forward in their lives. Or, is it possible you want to go back with your ex really? I suggest you talk to someone who is well trained and objective to sort your feelings out.
Best wishes.
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