Sure I don't want to be in the marriage

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Registered: 07-24-2008
Sure I don't want to be in the marriage
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 11:11am

First, my husband been cheating the whole marriage know matter how hes it's caught he lies. I forgive and then he does it again etc now I'm at time and my life when I want out . I was trying to make it work for kids but that gets old there young but I'm sure they see we don't talk much to each other and that's not heathy for them. When I try to talk to him to let him know I'm not happy he gets mad he can't deal with it but he thanks I can deal with him

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 11:46am

Welcome to the board tired2008,


He thinks you can deal with him cheating because so far you have put up with it. So he doesn't know any different. I think asking him to move out at this point would be the first step. It would let him know that you are serious about not being happy. If you don't want to work on this anymore (and who could blame you), seek the advice of a divorce lawyer.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 12:51pm

Welcome to the board tired2008,


Sorry you are going through this.

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Registered: 07-24-2008
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 1:29pm
Thankyou your right I really which we can talk about this like grown adult before we take the first step.
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Registered: 07-24-2008
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 1:43pm

You know I asked him to move you know what he said you think I'm going to pay

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 11:37pm
If you want out bad enough you'll find a way.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2008
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 8:26am
I'm sure and my parents are dead which he would leave I have 3 children
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 5:39pm

No one wants to be in a relationship where they are treated disrespectfully. His behavior is abusive. Unless he owns what he is doing, accepts responsibility, works hard to re-establish trust, there is no relationship. You have every right to be with someone who treats you with love, consideration and support. And, yes, it's not good for children to see parents angry with each other and lonely.


Why not get some good counseling to help you come to decisions that will support you in having a healthy life.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 07-24-2008
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 9:27am
Thankyou welll last night we had a good talk and we decided to see a marriag counsler.