"Taboo" sex has gotten out of control
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| Tue, 08-17-2004 - 3:29pm |
I will admit that I too enjoy pushing the more liberal boundaries of sex. I suppose I can chalk it up to curiosity and the desire to try many stimulating things as part of the continual life experience.
The great news and upside is I have found a great guy who is just as curious and just as open to trying new and exciting things... only it seems to have gotten out of control and I am not longer as comfortable with his reasons for why he wants to explore or personal need to explore.
So here it goes...
I have tried sex with another woman - we actually paid for a professional so she would know what to do and basically provide a positive experience. It was.
We tried couple sex and it was great up until the point I caught him taking off his condom and "finishing" with her. I immediately let him know after they left that I was A - furious that he would put us in danger of STDs and B – that he was cut off for a month and until as long as it took to produce a clean bill of health from the local clinic (I had too much wine is not an excuse for what happened)
I then postponed anymore couple or threesomes because he always seems to talk about “two women at once” anytime we start to stimulate each other during sex. He could never seem to play out a fantasy without ALWAYS including another woman with us.
Swingers clubs or an orgy... yeah I want to try it but no I do not want it to be a regular part of my sex life. He is continually pushing for it and even wants to swing more often with other couples.
So know I start to ask... am I the girlfriend who is open and exploring with/for him or have I crossed the fine line of the girlfriend who has given him the opportunity to have sex with other women under the guise of threesomes and swinging?
He also seems to be pushing the alternative lifestyle much more... wanting it to become a part of our lives. It's like I have opened a Pandora's Box and now want to go to the other extreme of very vanilla - just us with absolutely not more mentioning of other women/men couples in our sex lives.
Have I become a prude?
Has he become addicted to something new and before taboo?
Is it unreasonable of me to no longer want to mention fantasies of other women, opportunities of having sex with other women or any other couple/threesome alternative sex?
What do you say to him when he says he wants to continually explore – meaning threesome, couples, swing clubs, orgies – as part of life since the vanilla sex would be boring?
What do you do when it has come to this?
HELP!

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