A tactful excuse, please?
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A tactful excuse, please?
| Fri, 01-02-2004 - 7:40am |
Good morning , I have a question that I would appreciate a possible solution to. We are having a friend over to our house who has not been over since we purchased our computer and computer center. They have three children who are very hyperactive and can be very destructive. They are from ages 9-14. They have destroyed so many items in their home, as well as other's homes .
I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings,including their parents, but my dh and I absolutely DO NOT want them operating the computer, nor do we want to have it even on when they come over . They all know how to work the computer and the kids said that they can't wait to come over to use ours.
Please help me in figuring out what I can say as to why we " can't " or " won't" put on the computer when they are here ?
Thanks ever so much for all of your suggestions.
Hope you and your families have a Happy and Healthy New Year.
Inana

Don't worry so much about tact- did they worry about your feelings when they broke your stuff? Those kids are old enough to know better.
Did the parents pay for a replacement for the items they broke?
Peace - Pebbles
You have absoslutely no obligation at all to allow them to use your computer. Boundaries are extremely important in all relationships. It is up to you to decide what is acceptable in your home. You are the host, they are the guests. These children may be permitted to run haywire in their own enviornment, but you do not have to go along with this for yourselves. Keep the computers turned off. Let them know in advance that you prefer that no one use them. It's as simple as that. There is nothing rude about it. These are your personal computers and just because they wish to enjoy them, does not mean that it is comfortable or acceptable to you. That's fine. Many people have a variety of wishes and behaviors. Just because they want something does not mean you must supply it, if it doesn't feel good to you. This is the nature of life itself. Saying no tastefully is not only crucial at times, but without the ability to do so, you will become run over by everyone else's wishes and needs.
Have a happy new year.
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And I don't think that lying is the thing to do for two reasons. I don't think lying is right and then what would you do the next time they come over? The truth is always the right way to go.
Edited 1/4/2004 4:33:55 PM ET by bluewrite