Taking it slow. What does that mean?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Taking it slow. What does that mean?
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Thu, 04-19-2007 - 12:27pm

Hello,

I really have a situation. I really need your advice. I've been with my children father off and on for about 10 years. We have 3 children together. We have had our ups and downs like most relationships. He tells me that he wants to be with me. We have broken up. He promised me that he wasn't going anywhere and he was sorry for hurting me in the past. Now that we have matured, he wants to take things slow. I feel that we've been through enough. He have cheated in the past, I've nagged him to death. I'm not seeing anyone, he says he's not seeing anyone. What does taking it slow means?

I asked him why. He says because he wants to get to know me and we should date and be sure if this will work. Then goes on to say, that he doesn't want to be with anyone right now and coming up with many excuses. WHen I questioned about that, he stated that he doesn't want to be with anyone else, but he wants to be with me. We should start off by just dating to be sure if this is what we want. I have my goals set and know what I want.Sounds very confusing, doesn't it? We know each other, have children together, we have sex, we go on family outing with the kids. WHAT COULD BE THE PROBLEM WITH US BEING TOGETHER IN A RELATIONSHIP? Isn't it him? I really feel as though he's stringing me along for a ride. Can men have commitment issues or he's just not that into me?

I am willing to take all opinions. Men and women. Because I have to make a decision that will either make it or break it.

I thank you in advance

T

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 2:04pm

Hi T and welcome to the board,


Will he go to counseling with you?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 3:09pm

tirene2,


Are you currently sleeping together? If so, than I think he is saying he wants to take it slow because he wants to keep his options open.


Taking it slow isn't necessarily