talk some sense into me about breakup

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Registered: 03-31-2005
talk some sense into me about breakup
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Mon, 09-17-2007 - 11:52am

BF and I have been together a year and a half.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 12:15pm

Hon, leave him alone!!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 1:12pm

Welcome to the board sweetchic2005,


It's not easy being pushed out of your home, no matter the reason.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 4:41pm

If you are truly sorry for cheating, you will do EVERYthing in your power to make this up to him.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 6:30pm

I don't think you have the right to dictate the terms of the relationship right now, or to get angry at him for asking you to leave. Remember that you are the one who wronged him, I'm sorry but "alcohol was a huge factor" does not even remotely mitigate the severity of your actions. I assume that your "wrong decision" was cheating on your boyfriend.

If he's kicking you out of your shared living space, it's probably because he's breaking up with you. Assume that he is. When you betray someone, you no longer have the right to share a space with them if that is what they choose. Pack the stuff that belongs to you and move out.

I agree with him. You are being selfish. He told you how you can help him forgive you, and instead of doing what he asks you to do, you are focusing on what YOU want. Clinging to him and putting up a fight is going to make him a lot less likely to want you back. I know you want advice on how to let him go, and the first step toward that is not contacting him. Let him do what he needs to do. If he doesn't want you around, don't be around. When, and if, he wants to try to trust you again, I'm sure he will come to you.

Forgiveness is not the act of immediately forgetting what happened; it's the commitment to try. He told you that he would try, I think that should be enough.